Simply put, marriage is the relationship between two adults, who are legally married. It is a sacred institution ordained by God to serve His purpose for companionship, enjoyment, protection, procreation, and completeness. Marriage typifies Christ and the Church.
However, because marriage occurs between two imperfect people from different backgrounds, and different levels of growth, there is bound to be problems that will arise from time to time that will threaten the union.
It is therefore, important for Christian couples to know what God says about this, and learn from the Source of all wisdom how to handle them.
- 1 What Does The Bible Say About Marriage Problems?
- 2 What Does The Bible Say About Marriage Problems KJV?
- 3 What Does The Bible Say About Unhealthy/Struggling Marriages?
- 4 How Does The Bible Say To Resolve Conflict In A Marriage?
- 5 Biblical Advice For Marriage Problems
- 6 Bible Verses On Marriage And Divorce
- 7 Does God Want You To Stay In An Unhappy Marriage?
- 8 Bible Verses For Couples In Hard Times
- 9 Examples Of Bad Marriages In The Bible
What Does The Bible Say About Marriage Problems?
When we read the Bible, we will see that it is full of different situations for all kinds of people no matter who you are or where you are. One of those many situations is marriage and the problems in it.
For instance, we saw communication problems in Abraham’s marriage. We saw lies in Isaac’s marriage, and we saw disagreement and competition in Jacob’s marriage too.
These from the patriarchs alone. Men like David, Job, prophet Hosea, are some other examples we might see from scripture of people who had one or two problems in their marriage.
What Does The Bible Say About Marriage Problems KJV?
The KJV shows us some things about marriage problems both in practical examples, in the Law, and in teachings.
Here are some examples of verses that talk about problems that may arise in a marriage:
The list can go on, but I am sure that we agree that the Bible does contain citations of the subject in question, don’t we?
What Does The Bible Say About Unhealthy/Struggling Marriages?
Were there unhealthy/struggling marriages in the Bible? Yes. We can find some.
Struggling in marriages or having an unhealthy marital relationship can arise from many reasons. Fear, anger, bitterness and unforgiveness, infidelity, lack of attention, and so on. In addition, they can have heavy impact of not just the individuals involved, but also others around them.
David and Michal, for instance, started well in love (at least the Bible records that she loved him greatly), but over time, they struggled with many issues, and their fondness and need of each other waned, until their last confrontation where she lashed out at him. From there, we never heard about her anymore, other than the fact that she never had children until the end of her days (kind of like the only well-known person I know in the Bible who died barren).
Many other marriages struggled or were just plain unhealthy. For some of these marriages, it ended well eventually like that of Hosea and Gomer, but some others didn’t end that way, e.g. Nabal and Abigail (Nabal died actually).
How Does The Bible Say To Resolve Conflict In A Marriage?
Although conflicts have the potential to destroy your marriage, knowing what God says about resolving them will help you salvage each situation, and in turn save your marriage from Satan’s attacks.
Here are some Biblical ways to resolve conflict in marriage:
- Be the first to make a move to resolve the conflict as soon as possible.
- Be willing to communicate, listen objectively, and don’t jump to conclusions.
- Be willing to value your marriage over your ego, and choose peace instead.
- Pray for your spouse and over the issue in question.
Biblical Advice For Marriage Problems
Here are eight (8) Biblical advice for marriage problems that can help any couple going through a hard time in their marriage:
- Understand that there are healthier ways to deal with issues, and you must take as much time as you need to seek it and settle for peace
- Make sure that the reason for the conflict isn’t about you putting your interest ahead of your spouse
- Seek wise and godly counsel
- Husbands, remember your sole responsibility to your wife is to love her above all things like you do your own self, and as Christ loved the Church enough to die for it
- Wives, submission is not slavery. It means reverence, respect, and humility before your spouse, just like the Church to Christ as well.
- Practice consistent forgiveness
- Pray constantly, and if possible, do it together
- Learn how to limit the involvement of third parties in marriage. Many do not mean well
Bible Verses On Marriage And Divorce
Here are four (4) Bible verses on the subject of marriage and divorce in addition to all that we have been looking at thus far:
Does God Want You To Stay In An Unhappy Marriage?
When is it right to walk away from a marriage?
If we are to follow the directive of the scriptures and common sense, we know that there are some listed. Let me point them out to you below:
- When there is physical abuse and life is being threatened
- Desire of an ungodly spouse to leave
Other than these three above, I can’t find any reason to leave your marriage.
Marriages can be unhappy for many reasons, just like one can be unhappy as a single. Hence, we can trust God to guide us by His word, comfort us by His Spirit, and heal our home by His power.
Leaving an unhappy home may not be the best solution. If we can let God in, He can change our homes for good, and bring back colour and light into it.
Bible Verses For Couples In Hard Times
The word of God should be the base of comfort and guidance for every child of God, every marriage, and every family going through hard times. That is how God set it to be.
Here are a few verses for couples in hard times:
Examples Of Bad Marriages In The Bible
Find below my list of some bad marriages or marriages that struggled through hard times in the Bible plus scripture references, in case you wish to check them out
- Nabal and Abigail (1Samuel 25)
- Ahab and Jezebel (1Kings 16:31; 19:1-2; 21:1-26)
- David and Michal (2Samuel 6:16-26)
- Jacob and Laban’s daughters: Rachel and Leah (Genesis 29-30)
- Hosea and Gomer: a challenging love story (Hosea 1-14)