As long as we are on the surface of the earth, we will come face to face with grief. It is a part of healing and growth process, and we all deal with it in our own unique ways.
Nevertheless, what is Grief?
Grief is a deep distress caused by loss or bereavement. It is also an unfortunate turn of event or outcome.
Should people grief?
Does God have anything against those who grieve?
Let’s find out together.
- 1 What Does the Bible Say About Grief?
- 2 What Does the Bible Say About Grief (KJV)?
- 3 What Does the Bible Say About Mourning the Death of a Loved One?
- 4 What Does the Bible Say About the Stages of Grief?
- 5 What Does the Bible Say About Overcoming Grief?
- 6 Examples of Grief in the Bible
- 7 Is Grief a Sin in the Bible?
- 8 How To Deal With Grief Biblically
- 9 Bible Verses About Mourning the Loss of a Loved One
What Does the Bible Say About Grief?
The Bible is quite clear regarding grief and grieving. It is used in diverse situations, all in relation to either bereavement or an unfortunate event like a loss (not necessarily of life), disappointment, failure, heartbreak, and so on.
For example, the Bible mentions in Ecclesiastes chapter 3 that there will come a season in the lives of individuals when we would face grief.
*Bibles verses are from the NIV unless otherwise indicated
So, from the above, it is clear that this is experience is recognized in the word of God.
What Does the Bible Say About Grief (KJV)?
Grief or grieving is something that is identified in scripture regardless of the translation, whether it is the KJV (King James Version) or any other. Different words may be used, but the idea remains the same.
For instance, when Solomon prayed for the Temple during its maiden dedication, he mentioned situations in which the people will seek God’s assistance when they accept their grief.
Other translations or versions may substitute the word ‘grief’ for words like pain, sickness, suffering, troubles or sorrow, etc. However, no matter how the word is used, the idea is still conveyed that among many things:
- The Bible recognizes grief or grieving
- The Bible agrees that seasons of grief or grieving will come at one time or another
What Does the Bible Say About Mourning the Death of a Loved One?
God our loving Father is sensitive to the frailty of our humanity, and so He made sure that we have records of people who went through similar experiences as us in the Bible. This way, you do not feel like you are alone, weak, or like we are doing something wrong.
In the old Testament, for instance, mourning was allowed among the Jews for between seven days to thirty days depending on the individual.
The Israelites mourned for Moses for thirty days while Jacob’s sons mourned him for seven.
The Bible does indicate that expression of our hearts and pain in the loss of those dear to us is necessary and should not be suppressed. However, we are guided by the word to mourn differently and not like those who are without Christ and are hopeless:
What Does the Bible Say About the Stages of Grief?
Psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross helped develop the concept of the five stages of grief in order to help us understand how we feel and where we are on the journey to healing from our losses and pains.
Her model consisted of five stages of grief after a loss:
- Depression, and
God recognizes that we all process losses differently and so His word is accurate about us knowing His will for us regardless of the stage we are in. We could say that the Bible does focus on you and that no matter the stage, God has promised to be with you through it all.
Here is a verse that promises us God’s support whether you are in one stage of grief or another
What Does the Bible Say About Overcoming Grief?
Overcoming grief our way may lead us into destructive patterns, and God wants to keep us safe from this. Hence, the need to know what the Bible says about overcoming grief when they come.
If we look through God’s word, we would see different situations that grieved the hearts of God’s people and how they dealt with it. Each one overcame our griefs by bringing it before the Lord and letting God heal them completely.
Examples of Grief in the Bible
Here are a few citations from the Bible where we can find examples of grief.
- Isaac and Rebekah over Esau’s marriage
- Jacob mourned for Joseph thinking he had been killed like his brothers said
- Jesus was in deep distress in the Garden of Gethsemane
Is Grief a Sin in the Bible?
No! Nowhere in scripture is it stated that grief is sin. However, God does warn His people to be careful how they grieve, so that they don’t end up magnifying the devil and falling into sin instead.
How To Deal With Grief Biblically
If we are ever faced with grief, here are some biblical ways to deal with it:
- Trust that God’s plans for you are good regardless of what has happened or is happening
- Ask God to heal and comfort you
- Surround yourself with people of faith who will help support your faith and encourage you through your grieving stages
- Ponder more on the promises of God concerning you
Bible Verses About Mourning the Loss of a Loved One
Here are some Bible verses that can help us when mourning a loved one:
God is our comfort. May His comfort heal you through your season of grief, Amen.